|5 Mistakes That Can Damage a Student's Personality|
As teachers, of course, we have a big responsibility in educating students. We hope that the students we teach can grow into good personalities. However, have we ever done self-reflection regarding the way we educate. Is our way of educating us right? Is there a way we educate actually cause damage to the student's personality? For that, as a teacher you must know some of the wrong ways of educating that can cause damage to the student's personality. Here are some wrong ways that you should avoid in educating:
If so, it's time for you to stop this bad habit. Despite your good intentions, to reprimand students who break the rules. Yelling is the worst way to reprimand students. The ill effects are far greater than spanking and other punishments. This is because, shouting will carry negative memories in the student's brain and will stick with it throughout his life. Many studies reveal that educating by shouting can make students more aggressive both physically and verbally. As quoted from Healthline, shouting can make students' behavior more aggressive, both physically and verbally. In any context, shouting shows an expression of anger that only makes students fear and feel insecure.
Never compare a student with another student. This act can destroy the student's confidence and abilities. Comparing one student to another will not make the student any more motivated. Instead, the student will make him feel unsure of his abilities. Worse yet, comparing students can lead to misunderstandings. Students feel offended and hurt by your words. So students will lose respect for you. Understand that every student is unique, they have their own strengths and weaknesses. They have their own characteristics and different learning abilities.
3. REGARDING EXCESSIVELY
As an educator, you are obliged to reprimand and correct mistakes made by students. However, reprimands should not be carried out excessively, such as personal attacks and demeaning students' self-esteem when reprimanded. Examples of reprimands such as, 'Why don't you ever use your brain?' is a rebuke that hurts the student's heart, because it is too demeaning to the student's self-esteem. Another example, 'You really are too stupid.' Including examples of negative and excessive reprimand, for attacking and blaming the student's personality, not his behavior. A rebuke will be more effective if you say something like, 'Next time, think carefully before you do anything, okay? It could also be by saying a sentence of reprimand that directly blames the student's behavior, 'Cheating is a dishonest act, dishonesty is the same as lying. Don't be like that, you're not a liar are you?'
4. SENDING VIOLENCE IN THE FORM
If we write the keyword 'Teachers punish students reported to the police' in the Google search engine, we will find lots of cases in various areas, parents report teachers to the police for punishing their children. Can a teacher punish students? In the book of Adab Al-Mu'allimin, Ibn Sahnun conveys about punishment as a pedagogical tool, where its implementation must be limited according to the violations or mistakes of students. He also added that the provision of punishment must pay attention to the psychological impacts that can affect the child's soul. So punishment must be educational, away from elements of violence. Punishment in the form of violence will only be an outlet for your annoyance to the student who made a mistake and leave a feeling of revenge on the student.
5. BAD THOUGHT OF STUDENTS
Always interpreting student behavior negatively is part of bad prejudice against students. Despite the fact that students make mistakes, prejudice against students will not bring a good impact. Respect students' personalities while still assuming that they have good intentions. Dr. Musthoafa Abu Sa'id in his book entitled Educating Naughty Teenagers, explains that misguiding every utterance a student says will only cause a student to lose confidence in his teacher. If this trust is lost, the door of communication between the two parties will be closed.
Those are 5 teacher mistakes that can damage the personality of students that we must avoid, so that the education we provide can create a superior generation with a good personality. Hope it is useful.